Melissa Rivers on Her Mother, Joan

– Hi.
– Hi. – How are you?
– I know. I’m having a very emotional day. – Yeah? Well–
– Yeah. – I’m–I–
– The ebb and flow. – Yeah. I understand.
– Yeah. – You know, first of all,
you just– the Daytime Emmys
were last weekend… – Yes. – And there was a huge tribute
to your mother, which was beautiful. – Thank you. – And–but I can’t believe she
only won an Emmy once. – Isn’t that crazy?
– Yeah. – She’s only–never won
a Primetime Emmy, and the only one she ever won
was she won one Daytime Emmy. – Wow. – And, you know,
it was at a point in her career where the daytime community
really embraced her… – Mm-hmm. – And she was so loved
by that whole group, and to walk out and have
so many of the producers and all these people that she’s
worked with for all those years be there and stand up was a very
emotional moment. – It’s a very strong community. I also feel very embraced
by the daytime community and have been very blessed
by, you know, everything, so it’s a wonderful thing. – And I think
she would’ve liked the dress, except it was way
too conservative. – Uh–real–
– For her taste. I mean, for her,
she would’ve wanted me– which I wrote in the book–
you know, everything hanging out
and nothing to the imagination. – You had very different tastes
in–in the way you dress. Like, for her birthday,
probably, Jasmine’s look
would’ve been really good. You know?
– Yes. – Yeah.
– Yes. – Yeah. That would’ve been–
– Yes. – You know.
– Yeah. – She knew what to do
for her mother for her birthday. She knew. So it’s a really sweet book,
and it’s– it’s a tragedy
that you had to write this book in the first place. But it must
have been bittersweet because there’s–there
are amazing stories in here that make you laugh,
and how was– how tough was this to write? – It was tough, but my mother,
she always had this joke that she wanted to write
a book with me before she died called “Comedian Dearest.” – Mm-hmm. – You know where this is going.
– Yeah. – So then it would
be in the safety deposit box, so she would say once her head
hit the floor, I could just publish it
right away. – Right. – So I wanted to write something
that would make me laugh and would make her laugh
and would make her fans laugh, and I think I set the tone
with the dedication… – Mm-hmm. – Which is, “For my mother,
whom I think about every day, “and to my father, who,
as of this past September, is no longer resting in peace.” And–yeah. That–that sets the tone
for the book. But it was cathartic. It was very–I wanted to call it
“Cheaper than Therapy.” – Yeah, but you say–
I mean, she joked, saying “Comedian Dearest,” but she was a great
mother to you, even though she gave you advice
on how to be a good mother, which I thought was interesting. She was always self-deprecating
anyway, but– but tell people what she said. – Oh, there were–there were
lots of things she said. Well, she always used to say
that I was actually a better mother than–for Cooper
than she was for me. – Mm-hmm. – Which, on the surface,
sounds like a compliment. – Mm-hmm. – But then you stop
for a second–you go, like, “Wait a minute,
what’s wrong with me?” If I’m doing so much
of a better job, like, do I need to go lay down? I’m a little worried about that. – Yeah. – But, you know, she was–
she was funny. And, you know,
she lived for my son. – Yeah, Cooper is how old?
14? – He’s 14.
– Wow. And I know they were very,
very close. – Very close. He’s 14 now. It was a big, big blow to him. – Mm-hmm. – But, you know,
he’s a teenager, so sometimes, he actually
looks up from the phone, and I see his eyes,
and I can see if he’s happy. – Yeah. – But, you know, my mom,
she was–it’s so funny because when I
was growing up, and– my parents would come
to every game, and it turned out that my mother
used to actually be asleep behind her sunglasses and never learned anything
about sports. – Uh-huh. – And with Cooper,
she would actually, like– she had her chair, like, that
she would carry to the games and the practices, and she would
actually stay awake, and sometimes, she even knew
which team scored. So, you know,
she really loved him. – So she went to Cooper’s games,
and was she… – Well, she wasn’t dressed
like that. – I was gonna say, how– – Yeah, she always went
in full hair and makeup, and I used to call her, like,
it was, like, “Johnny Cash.” She would always be all in black
and heels and the whole thing ’cause she was always–her–
her thing was, “I don’t need some snotty
eighth-grader “going home to his parents and
say, ‘I saw Joan Rivers and she looks like crap.'” – She was dressing
for the eighth-graders. – She was dressing
for the drag– Santa Monica Dragons
eighth grade lacrosse team. – Hilarious. Hilarious. I want to read this. I mean, her jokes
are just timeless, and I–I think it was–
was it the “60 Minutes” piece where she showed the filing
cabinet of all the jokes that she’s kept over the years? Well, I remember that piece.
– Yes. – I mean, she’s
just got so many jokes, but–and they just stand up. “My love life
is like a piece of Swiss cheese. Most of it is missing,
and what’s there stinks.” [laughter] “Looking 50 is great… if you’re 60.” “My best birth control now
is just leave the lights on.” “The first time I see
a jogger smiling, I’ll consider it.” “I hate housework. “You make the beds,
you do the dishes, and six months later,
you have to do it all again.” Just really great,
and sweet stories. And she really was a pioneer
and an amazing, amazing woman. – And you’re in here. – I know. I know. I was flattered to see that. That–that’s so sweet, and she was very
supportive of me, so. She was an amazing woman, and we are sad that she’s not
with us anymore. I’m so glad you wrote the book. It is called
“The Book of Joan,” and it’s available starting

48 thoughts on “Melissa Rivers on Her Mother, Joan

  1. I loved Joan so much she was so funny. I'm very sad about her UNEXPECTED passing! ?

  2. I'm a little shocked that Melissa is on her show. Joan never made an appearance on Ellen that I know of. This interview is awkward.

  3. When people say "It's funny" or "That's hilarious" without laughing… makes me cringe. Get real

  4. The world is a sad place without Joan – very surreal to acknowledge her passing, R.I.P

  5. At 0:45 of course Ellen has to make it about herself. Ellen, you can drink my diarrhea juice tbh. ?

  6. She couldn't wait to get rid of her shit! I can't stand her or her mother no wonder she didn't win shit…

  7. My heart broke when Joan passed. The book Melissa wrote, "The Book of Joan" is really beautiful, funny and comforting. I actually got the Audio version because Melissa reading it aloud makes in more personable. ???

  8. I wished Meryl Streep would've attend Joan's funeral simply because she had mentioned her.

  9. idiots clapping just watch wen they got some type of gifts its like they have orgasms for the first time stupid american bitches

  10. It's been nearly three years and I still get sad and teary eyed anytime I watch an interview like this. Joan was my idol and I miss her so much. Melissa's book was amazing by the way. I got the Audio version which she narrates herself and it's beautiful just like Joan. Love you to the moon and back Joan! Thanks for the laughs. ???

  11. I swear everyday I pray to God asking him to bring her back. The world is so grey without her dark humor, no one and I mean no one can get away with not even 3% of what she use to say. I swear I watch the news and the celebrity news daily and ask: what would Joan say?

  12. Didn't Ellen refuse to have Joan on her show? (I don't recall her ever being on Ellen)

  13. Maybe Ellen should've invited Joan on her show at least ONCE since she apparently loves Joan's jokes so much

  14. Funny Ellen says Joan was supportive of her… Ellen wasn’t that supportive of Joan. She was one of the guests Ellen refused to have on because she thought she was mean

  15. If I were Melissa, Ellen would be the last show I would ever go to promote something. Especially since Ellen didn't like Joan and had her ban after that one appearance her and Melissa did on her show.
    Now that Joan is dead, Ellen praises her and says Joan was an amazing woman and her jokes were timeless.
    She could have said that when Joan was alive, especially when Joan was supportive of Ellen. What a bullshiter Ellen has become!! I used to like Ellen, but in recent year's, I've come to dislike her. I can't stand people who pretend to be Mr or Mrs Goodie two shows when they're actually real assholes behind the scenes.
    R.I.P to the brilliant Joan. Still one of the greatest comedians of all-time!

  16. She was hilarious this woman really was amazing at what she did 🙂 I loved her and I hate that we missed out on all of her trump jokes she would of owned that man left right and center ?

  17. i think u wouldnt be friends ellen with the obamas if you knew they had her mother murdered ill always feel this way

  18. Joan was/is too controversial=honest for you, Ellen. Admit it, don't be chicken.

  19. I thought Ellen said that Joan was mean and she didn't like her comedy? She was very vocal about her dislike of Joan, what changed Ellen? Hmm….

  20. I can only imagine the jokes she would have had about the Trump administration… forever one of the best comedians of ALL times

  21. Is wird Ellen sound so fake …. like she is best friend with Joan … Joan never by on Ellen shows like others comedians …

  22. Oh I really admire till yesterday I was still watching all her video they keep me happy and I saved them in my mobile so when things or days gets bored she keeps me going thanks

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