What really happens when you Die | End-of-life-phenomena • At home with Peter Fenwick


dr. Fenwick you are a neuropsychiatrist
and you are an expert in near-death experiences and end-of-life phenomena
before I ask you about that what is a neuropsychiatrist I’m a
neuropsychiatrist and that means as I’m trained in neurology and psychiatry and
I’ve done that for many years but it’s a perfect position to be because you’re
between brain and mind so you can see both sides of the field and understand
them much better than if you were just a psychiatrist or a neurologist what does
your daily work involve the day job that I had was dealing with people of brain
damage and the psychological problems flow from that
so I dealt with epilepsy and I had large numbers of patients who had seizures
they had altered consciousness of various types so one can use epilepsy as
a model of how the brain works and that was great but in my research they were
very wide as interested in sleep as interested as the equipment came in to
look at brain structure but first of all I was interested in the electrical
activity of the brain EEG and in fact one of the first papers
I wrote was on George Harrison to remember George Harrison the Beatle well
he very kindly came along to our lab and I took his EEG when he was meditating
because he had been to see the Maharishi and so on he was one of the first
meditation records that I got so that then became an interest of mine so
meditation and unusual experiences spiritual experiences I I studied and
then I became interested in the near-death experience that led on to an
interest in dying and how we die in broad terms what can we learn from these
scans so how does nearest country help us
understand people it’s very good because you get both sides of the picture you
can understand what’s going on in their brain you can understand what’s going on
in their minds so you’ve got a really quite a close correlation between those
two things but it also directs you straight to the fundamental question of
our time and that is what is consciousness is it all brain is it
outside of brain because William James way back the turn of the century said
that consciousness was outside and the brain filtered it as many people have
done since then whereas others and the main thrust of modern science is to
ignore that and to say now it’s all brain function my own view is that’s too
limited I don’t think it is for a minute yeah how did you get involved with
near-death experiences and near-death experiences I thought was rubbish
absolute rubbish it only happened in California and it would never ever cross
the Atlantic I knew that and I said so didn’t when was that oh that was way
back in the late 1970s just going into 1980 until there turned up in my
consulting room somebody had had a near-death experience he’d had the
cardiac catheter in one of our hospitals in London which had gone wrong and
during the process he left his body watched the resuscitation and then had
the classical near-death experience and so with this as an example I was able to
study them and I came to the conclusion that they really happened and they had a
lot to teach us so I had to shift my position from rubbish to really
interesting mm-hmm how did you go about studying these phenomena first of all I
took individual cases when I came across them and looked at those from the point
of view of what the people experienced and I set up a number of
studies some of them I was allowed to do another time wasn’t for example in one
of the hospitals I was in I wanted to study people in the intensive care unit
and see if they had near-death experiences during their time and when I
put it to that hospitals ethics committee the man who ran the intensive
care unit said none of my patients will have experiences like that it’s a waste
of time and so I couldn’t do that one then so I went the other route and that
was to study the experiences that people have had and I was very lucky because in
87 I did a television documentary in this country and following it we got
2,000 letters remember letters those things you have been you know not an
email so we’ve got to thousands of those and that gave us a huge database so I
took the best ones best meaning that most like an NDE and sent questionnaires
off to 500 of them and that became a sample and I learned a lot of very
important things from that firstly this sample will never be repeated again
because 98 percent had in fact not heard of any ease when they had their NDE so
that automatically rules out suggestion and things like that so it was very
different the next thing I learned was that when you looked at what caused the
NDE it was very very wide from cardiac
arrests right through childbirth illnesses going even wider than that you
come down at the end to people who’d be sitting in front of their far one
evening and they would have a near-death experience they got all the phenomena
and if they filled in any of the rating scales they were rated as a near-death
experience and so I learnt that they are common in our society and
the fact that they are associated only with things like cardiac arrest I think
was not to do the work which ourselves and Bruce Greyson in America was doing
and that was to say okay we want to study near-death experiences well then
we want to know what the brain state is now how do you know what the brain state
is when a woman is is having a baby you can’t it’s far too variable and you
during an illness it’s also too variable so I took what I thought was the most
sensible when the brain was not working so I took the near-death experiences
which occurred during cardiac arrest and so we spent a number of years looking at
that so this was a large sample did you get the whole spectrum of near-death
experiences I think it was pretty nearly the whole spectrum in our culture
because you have to say that there are certain fundamentals which are culture
specific for example tunnels and light tend to be seen a lot more in Western
experiences than they do in some of the eastern experiences and if you take
hunter-gatherers the experience itself is quite different for example there’s
some nice simple aegs sorry near-death experiences from hunter-gatherers and
here’s one example a man had a near-death experience he got into his
canoe and he paddled for three days so he came to an island
this is his near-death experience and actually do this and in the island he
then had the sort of experience of an ideal place like the near-death
experiences do so his was quite different
don’t forget the Japanese when they go they don’t actually go down a tunnel
usually they usually come to a dark River which they have to cross and they
have to find a boatman to take them across that sort of thing so there are
cultural differences I think one has to realize that and
accept it it’s that dependent on your worldview on your background yes the
reason for that being cultural differences is very wide
it’s definitely worldview it’s definitely religious upbringing and it’s
definitely the culture that you’re in all these things impact on it what do
you think is the value of NDE research I think that they have two important
values one is that they have to be at the cutting edge of research into
consciousness and one of the things that we’re learning is that very powerful
experiences change people who have them and so people who have near-death
experiences or change because of them and so that’s an interesting fact which
we need to need to look at the phenomenology of them gives us some idea
about the nature and structure of consciousness so from that point of view
they’re extremely good and because they’ve come to be associated blood
pointed out that this is just an association they’re much wider than that
with cardiac arrest and actual death experiences are they a good model of how
we die so from all those reasons I think they’re very important do you think that
near-death experiences provide some kind of proof that consciousness can exist
without a brain is consciousness independent of the brain that’s a very
wide question and I wouldn’t look can consciousness exist without a brain yes
well we’d have no way of knowing would we so the question is a good one I’d
formulate it slightly differently I would say all the mechanist s’right is
consciousness secreted by the brain as the brain as the liver secretes bile
that sort of thing or the kidneys you’re in
is it a product of brain function or is it in fact a filter in some way that
there is in fact a transcendent reality out there that is filtered by the brain
so we get a reduced picture of it and I think those are the two questions I mean
I know what my answer is but it’s not the usual answer why is
that why do I believe that consciousness exists beyond the brain rather than that
it’s secreted like bile in the brain the answer to that is that why would you
think it was only brain function and if you look at the arguments which have put
forward there’s got to be a very high correlation between brain damage and the
changes in the mind and in the capabilities and so on of the person
who’s damaged there’s got to be a very high correlation but that doesn’t say
anything about causation because causation and correlation are quite
different and if you want a really good authority for this statement you can
think about Penfield Penfield was a very very well known neuro surgeon from
Canada and Penfield put electrodes in the brain he’s one of the first people
to do it got a very good idea of what how the brain functions and how it was
connected together and so on so he spent his life actually looking at the brain
and at the end he wrote a book about what did he think what his mind he came
to say there’s absolutely no doubt that neurons communicate with each other in
very complex ways and complex ways we don’t understand yet but the energy of
mind is different and so however much you study
in Europe the neurons you will not in fact get to the energy of mine so it’s a
different dimension altogether now that’s from somebody who spent his life
studying the brain but on the other hand you can get philosophers like Dan
Dennett who says it’s all brain I was sitting
next to Dan Dennett at a conference once and I said Dan you don’t really believe
that do you when you understand when we understand
the neuron will understand consciousness he said absolutely when we numb when
we’ve understood the neurons then there will be nothing left maybe a little
smidgen like that but that’s all it’s only the brain and that’s so you got the
two camps and each camp will in fact put forward evidence as to why they’re right
but of course I sit in between the brain is enormous ly important has great
functions but it can’t explain consciousness but we there is only one
theory in this whole world of what consciousness is and this is Stuart
Hameroff sand Roger Penrose is a theory and this is that the brain in the
microtubules these are structures within the brain acts as a quantum mechanical
computer and that it is within that collapse of the wavefunction
in the tubules that consciousness undifferentiated unattached arises so
think of the huge matrix of the brain and these little points of consciousness
coming into the brain then of course consciousness is woven into the brain
and into the circuits of the brain and then you build it up into self
consciousness now that is about the only theory I know that actually allows
consciousness to arise in any way at all so it’s an important theory you’ve
written a book about the art of dying and described a number of end-of-life
phenomena can you tell us about them I have written a book called the art of
dying and I wrote it because I asked a question he came right out of the
near-death experience research the research said that you go down a tunnel
in in our culture you meet a being of light you go into this transcendent
reality where you meet dead relatives and spiritual beings you may have a life
review then you’ll come to a border which if you cross you know you’re going
to die so it’s a perfectly valid question to ask is this near-death
experience a model of what will happen when you die so we can actually do that
so how do you validate that model what you do is you find out what the mental
experiences are of the die now in 2000 when I started on this research you
could go into PubMed one of the main medical databases and ask questions like
how many people have published papers on deathbed visions during about five what
about end-of-life experiences maybe one or two and so you could become a world
expert you see very quickly you only had to look at seven papers and you knew the
literature and so what I’m saying is that there wasn’t anything there so we
went along to our ethics committee and said could we please talk to the dying
so we could get some idea of what the process of dying was like most would way
back in 2000 and they quite rightly said I think no because you may disturb the
dying now why did they say that they said it because nobody had ever done
that before and they actually didn’t know
so we had to change our tack we had to do a carer study now if you go into a
hospice it’s less so now but very strong then you find that it’s divided into
bands through the nurses who are in touch with the patients they see all the
phenomena of dying and the doctors who aren’t and say it doesn’t occur so there
is really quite a significant difference between these two and I have some really
interesting stories about this gap between the medical and the nursing
staff as I say it’s less now I’ll tell you why I did it then I’ll tell you the
stories afterwards because it makes more sense that way so the Ethics Committee
said you can do a carer study but you can’t ask the dying so he actually did a
carer study we did three hospices in a nursing home in this country and we did
three hospices in rotterdam to get a cross cultural component it’s not very
cross-cultural but it’s just slightly different a little bit further away and
we found the most fascinating things and so it’s allowed us to put together a
measure of the sorts of things that you can expect the first thing that you may
get is a premonition and that means that you know you’re going to die so before
you get the diagnosis you learn in a dream maybe or it suddenly comes to you
that you’re going to die soon this is the patients or the relatives ah no the
patient’s the Dalai Lama says all of us know two years before we’re going to
died that we’re going to die so we’re given that information if you look in
his book to see how we know he says two things one of which I can understand
slightly and that is the behavior changes and the other is that our
breathing changes well I don’t know what he means by that
but I can see that one’s behavior may change you may get the feeling that
you’re going to die and then across your behavior will change but he says it’s
very common in fact it’s everyone we didn’t find that we felt it was not
common but not so rare that we couldn’t pick up occasional cases of it
the next thing that happens is that a few weeks before you die you get
deathbed visitors now what’s the deathbed visitor they are relatives who
come to you they do it in a specific way they may stand outside the room in which
you’re dying or they may come into the room and that’s quite common you of
course will talk to them and then a number of them will sit on the bed and
talk to you why do they sit on the bed because it’s enormous ly comforting to
you to have somebody sitting on the bed I mean if you’ve ever had any old child
you know you don’t just stand up and talk to it you go and sit on the bed and
hold its hand and so on well the the relatives can sit on the bed and we took
a hundred deathbed visions and analyzed them for content and we found that the
Communists spoke people who come a first degree but relatives mother and father
are commonly seen dead spouses are quite common but we also in fact found that
brothers and sisters come people you don’t know occasionally occasionally
animals not many sorry about that your cat or your dog is
not going to come along so it’s mainly first-degree relatives
and we also found in our sample that spiritual beings were seen now the
spiritual beings behave slightly differently from
the relatives they tend to either wait outside the hostel hospice and they’re
seen through the window or they may come to the door and some of them come in now
I must point out that this is there’s a big cultural element because a paper
published from the Bible Belt of of America showed that angels were seen
very commonly now in our sample any three percent of people saw angels so
it’s much smaller over here so I think there is this cultural component to it
so there are visitors and spiritual beings are there any other phenomena
around this as you go closer to death you come into the next stage and in fact
these needed to be changed now a bit but what we initially found was that you
went into a different reality a spiritual world then you came back again
so this was as if you were getting used to the spiritual world so he went into
it and came back and went into it and came back and it was very important for
the people who were dying and now that is changing and I want to talk about
Monica rinses theory on this because it’s absolutely vital
Monica rents is a theologian in Switzerland and she has had a lot of
contact with the dying and she’s done published three studies now with a
cancer patients who are dying and one study was I think with about 60 patients
another one was 240 she’s just recently done a dual hospice study now what she
finds is that what we said was correct people do in fact go into this other
reality but if we come now to the dying process itself which is enormous ly
interesting and important and we all need to learn this in fact we should be
taught it in in in school and the way that dying I think is it’s like this
deathbed visitors come fine then at some moment you realize you’re going to die
and it hits you hard we’re not coming back guys this isn’t a getting well
process it’s a dying process and that then leaves you in a very difficult
position because you never come across that before you’ve always had some
control over something you now don’t and so you have to start giving everything
up this is absolutely fundamental you have to give up the fact that you’re
going to go on living you have to give up your wife have to
give up your cat and your dog to give up your children your family have to give
up your house and your job you’ve got to give up everything and if you don’t you
remain attached now attachment is the most difficult thing when you’re dying
if you could give everything up you’d have a very smooth transition you go
from this pre transition where you’re attached to transition which is a sort
of intermediate one to post transition and in post transition you in fact have
given everything up you go more and more into the spiritual domain which I’ve
described to you and it’s just like that until at the end you have lost your ego
you’ve lost that part of yourself which is differentiated you and you become
what’s called non Jew that means that you do in fact merge with the universe
you have already lost all your trappings of being a body in a purse
and you just got this non-duality which is merging with the greatest greater
cosmos behind so the idea that you’re going to retain a lot of the things that
you have in this life when you go there you know again see my mum and say hi
probably not but you will probably you could see your mum I don’t know but in
fact you will become Universal so that’s what the data shows and the data shows
that if you don’t give up all the things to which you’re attached then you have a
very difficult process in dying because you’ve got these two processes the one
of fusion with the greater beyond the outer pulling back into the limited
juicy and what happens then when the dying is more difficult yeah then you
have what is called spiritual restlessness it’s it’s not a pleasant
state to be in because you’ve got a lot of anxiety and all the time you’re being
pulled back you’re being pulled back you’re being pulled back it’s not
pleasant so you ought to know this so when you go into a hospice you should
have a lecture on the fact that you’re going to give up everything and so
that’s that takes you up to the dying process
now before you die I just want to add one other set of phenomena and these are
called terminal lucidity terminal lucidity is when the the Victorians used
to call it late awakening essentially and what it was is that you suddenly sit
up in bed say hi to the people around you because actually you don’t say how
you say goodbye because you know you’re dying and then you lie back and die now
that’s interesting enough but it’s much more interesting than that
because people who are paralyzed and haven’t moved maybe for a year
being a long-term care home they can sit up and do it so for that those few
moments the central nervous system seems to work again appropriately but more
interesting that to me is the people who have Alzheimer’s disease and have in
fact lost their memories many years back and just being in a care home will sit
up recognize their friends say goodbye sometimes meet their dead relatives and
then lie back and die so that’s a real question for science because how can you
do these things if one just takes the argument that the brain secretes
consciousness because it has to get its health secretion process going again do
you see like that just before you die doesn’t seem totally reasonable so that
then you die now the shows not over it’s over as far as you’re concerned but it’s
not as far as your relatives are concerned because many people who have a
a close relationship will then okay I can make a visit and this is important
because as you come up to death you can actually put off your dying for a bit
because sometimes some of the deathbed visits as you have said I’m going to
come back on Tuesday and you’ll die then but remember that we’ve got two sorts of
narratives running one is where you have more control and you probably actually
do so you can remember that you can negotiate with your relatives if you
want to to live a little bit longer but when you actually die if you have a
drive say to go and see a daughter or a son who couldn’t be there with you then
you can visit and the visit is very specific we’ve got a lot of these and
we’ve analyzed them and they at the time of death 99% always in half
nah most of the actual time of death and it depends on the mental state of the
person who receives the visit if you receive the visit and you’re awake
then it would be a feeling that somebody you know is dying dying the feeling that
they would like some help in some way or you feel some catastrophe is occurring
there’s the sorts of feelings you have if on the other hand you’re asleep then
it’s quite different you get a narrative dream and here’s an example of one a
woman woke up I think she was actually in a narrative dream and she saw
standing at the end of the bed her son and her son was dripping wet and her son
came closer and closer to her and as he came closer he became he came into the
light and became transfigured you gave her a message which many of them do and
said it’s okay please don’t worry I’m all right and then the whole thing faded
now the interesting point is that she’s in Australia and he’s in England and
when she can when the time zones a joust she rings up and she finds that in fact
he was drowned at that time in England and so there was a component of what was
happening in that he had wet clothes and then his transformation and and
disappearance at the end so that’s not an unusual story sometimes they just
come and give their message which is always I’m okay please don’t worry
and then move on so those are called deathbed coincidences now in our series
of these 45% of the people who had them didn’t know the person was dying
so you can’t in any way again blame expectation in very nearly half the
cases and I don’t think actually explanation of somebody’s death is a
good explanation at all so that’s deathbed vision now that other
phenomena which happened around the time of death and these are light in the room
light in the room is fascinating it can be very strong and behave like a real
light in other words the room can flood with light and flood out of the door
perience by the relatives only by the relatives into the corridor and then
people can pick it up and we had one account of the person woke up at night
found the light shining to the wrong thoughts he must have left the corridor
light on got out and saw it was streaming out of her aunt’s bedroom her
aunt was dying went in when you go into this light it’s always got the spiritual
quality to it and she reported that and she sat down quietly by her aunt who
slowly died now she died the light faded the light fading with death is very
common so the next thing can happen at the time of death instantly when I say
common in our series about thirty five percent of the nurses reported light in
the rooms of the dying and in their conversations with the relatives but
it’s a little bit more complex than that because I’ve spoken to relatives where
there’s been a brother and the sister and one of them will have seen it and
the other one may not so I think it’s going to be an interaction between the
person and what’s going on in the dying process so that’s light next thing is
shapes leaving the body again really quite common lots of stories of that and
they they describe it as first of all some people will describe a sort of
mirror type thing that they see coming up it’s
a sort of change in the atmosphere and the other thing is that it can look like
smoke arising or it can have a definite form to it and they’re all variations on
the theme and it’s very much has its bettin book of the dead describes these
last phases of dying they just describe a mirage they describe smoke and then
they go into our in sky and white sky which is something slightly different
but it’s a stage further down the line so shapes leaving the body quite common
light and transformation then clock stopping do clocks really stop well the
answer is yes how do we know because people say their clocks stopped at the
time of death and show it but what interested me is okay so I I accept the
pendulum clocks you know long case clocks stop because you could see that
sort of got a nice mechanical feel to it but do modern clocks which are LEDs do
they stop what do they do they turn the light out or what and we got one of two
accounts and this is a nice one somebody came up to tell the person who’s died
brother that he had died when he went into the into his house his brother came
to the door and said there’s no need for me for you to tell me I know and when I
asked him how he knew he said look at the clocks and they’d all stopped at the
time of his death and were flashing his death time that’s the story and you but
you get a lot of these stories watches stopping and so on so
clock still seemed to stop even in this modern era the other thing is cats and
animals howl at the time of death that’s quite common common enough for people to
report it and birds fascinating if you talk to people in hospices they’ll tell
you quite often that birds appear on the windowsills with people who are dying I
wish people would do simple experiments you just need one cat camera put it on
window a person who’s dying and compare that with the window somebody who’s not
dying I mean they’re so easy such easy experiments to do and it’s either true
or it’s not true so birds are commonly seen there was a village in
Massachusetts that described a guy who was fond of owls and when he died a
white owl came and sat in the village tree and well documented and they don’t
have scenario sir and the owl stayed there until his funeral and after his
funeral it flew away what does that mean don’t know okay others witnessed by
others yeah so these are all all things that happen do you have a sense of
frequently these things occurring well we we did a in in our surveys we always
asked what the frequency was you can do it in two ways you can see how common it
is in the sense that if a lot of our carers saw it is probably a lot more
common than if they didn’t and so I can give you free frequencies very easily talking to carers and deathbed visions
were about fifty percent but since we published these papers other people have
been doing it and they have done it two ways they have done it by looking at the
charts in that other words doing a child review so seeing how many times people
have said they’ve seen deathbed distances and so on they’re all seen any
of these things the other way is to ask the dying if you’re in that phase or ask
the carers actually or the relatives and it goes way up into the 80s it’s
probably very common but people just don’t report it and certainly we know
that in Monica rensis study 90 percent 90 percent that’s almost everyone will
go through this phase of going into this alternate reality and back again and
we’ll have to give up everything and go towards non-duality so it’s enormous Lee
important how can we achieve a good death i I’m driven now with all the
experience I’ve had by Monde occurrences work my work showed that you would go
into this alternate reality you would have your deathbed visitors and then you
would slowly come up to death and many people would in fact then trance and
I’ve got two stories on this one is a great friend of mine Thetis blacker who
was a religious planter and I had an agreement with that is when she died she
would let me know if I died before her I’d let her know said we could in fact
discuss the dying process because we talked a lot about it and she died
before I did because I’m still here and she’s not and she described what it was
like for her and she said as she was coming up to death this is just a week
before she died she had a river of love golden love and light which flowed
through her room and through the hospice and that’s sort of phenomena and I can
see probably occurs quite often but people
asked about it in other words and they also i dint know how to incorporate it
into their worldview but that sort of thing and another one which is an
amazing book he’s written a book about it and this is Paul Robertson the leader
of the medici quartet and he and i knew each other very well and paul had a
near-death experience and in his near-death experience
he catalogues the point of dying he says that he gave up his body to join with
the universal consciousness joyfully happily and willingly do you see he was
unattached and i think that’s a very good description of the death process we
have now joyfully lovingly and willingly and when he came back he was able to
talk about his near-death experience in the way that had changed his life I had
the same pact before that if I died before him he’d come be with me but in
fact that I was lucky because I was there the day before he died and he was
in and out of this sort of state but unfortunately I couldn’t stay long
enough but his wife was there the next day news sort of going down into
consciousness unconsciousness and he said to his wife tell Peter fennec it’s
exactly as we’ve discussed and then he died interesting I mean you can’t get it
much closer than that so I think the the the picture that we have of dying from
the evidence of dying people is actually quite good and I think you have to think
about giving everything up and then becoming non-dual and merging now one of
the interesting points about near-death experiences near-death experiences is
that a number of them become non-dual now what do I mean by that this is in
consciousness research and it’s one of the most interesting points of
consciousness research and that is that as you go on the
awakening process in other words changing your level of consciousness and
becoming more widely conscious you in fact have one or two features you lose
your narrative self you know this little bits of you the chats to yourself all
the time that goes next you’re always in the moment you’re not in the past you’re
not in the future it doesn’t mean anything to you if you ask them what is
the world they say well it’s here nah this is it what about what it was like
it’s not that it doesn’t exist I’m saying for the future what’s to come say
it just in the moment and the other thing is you’re unbelievably happy
and you’re also tending to be transcendent as well your persona is not
in the narrative voice and here it’s that you have become non-jew land and
are merging with reality and there’s a man called Jeffrey Martin in the States
and he’s collected 1500 cases of these these are ordinary people who’ve done it
so we know the state exists and we know it the how it exists and the link with
near-death experiences is because of the non-dual features in the near-death
experience and in dying the question is whether they’re the same or not or
whether people might become non Jew in the near-death experience and the answer
is yes they do and how do I know that because I’ve spoken to people who have
had near-death experiences actually it’s only to that I only need to who
described the non-dual state so you can get a shift in your level of
consciousness when you come back from a near-death experience so the idea that
the near-death experience may have something to do with dying and quite
closely in terms of consciousness and the shifting
consciousness is beginning to come together in a really interesting way do
you think there’s any connection between the way we think and the way we live our
lives and the way we experience our death and what comes after is the sort
of life you lead does it influence and the way you die well yes it does but you
have to be very careful here because we have accounts of people who’ve said it’s
all material I’m just going to go into blackness nothing and they say this
beforehand beforehand that’s that’s their belief structure and what is quite
clear is that as they come into the death process they’ve all given up that
idea and they all start looking forward to what’s going going to what’s
happening to them they don’t say they don’t believe in anything anymore the
sort of things they say one woman who was absolutely sure that there was
nothing there kept on waking up from a coma saying come on get on with it
because I want to move on do you see and that was quite different from what her
stance was so if you have a strong belief in angels will you see angels
probably that’s what the South of North America chose the Bible Belt they show
that if you lead a good life will you will it be different from a bad life and
I’m going to just reframe that bit if a good life means that you’re not strongly
centered in yourself in other words you’re thinking about other people and
doing things like that then when you come to this phase of giving up you can
give up much more easily because you’re not centered the other thing is guilt
because guilt is something which holds up people for
very difficult to give up their guilt all those terrible things they didn’t
they feel guilty about they’re very difficult to give up and so if you think
of somebody who’s committed a lot of crimes and they feel guilty about it
then they’ll have a lot of difficulty giving up and so my colleagues asked me
what happens if you’re a psychopath and have no guilt I don’t know I’ve never
seen a psychopath die but I assume they may do it very easily I don’t know if
they can give everything up so it’s going to be relate the quality of your
life is going to be related to your capacity to give up and this is going to
be how self-centered you are the more self-centered you are the more difficult
it’s going to be to give it up the cliche we often find in movies and in
literature that a good person has a good death and the bad guy has a bad death is
this what you observed in in your research how I’ve described it is
arguing from death in normal people and death in people who have spiritual
anxiety before as they come up to death so if people are married to anxiety of
those in fact who are attached and those who are free armed and so you can argue
from that statement to if you’re loaded with guilt or unable to give up your
persona or your possessions or anything those are the people again have
difficult death so it sort of fits in a bit with literature but not quite it’s
it’s it just got this twist that you have to be able to give up so let’s
assume you’re a billionaire and you smile at your friends and say it’s all
yours now and give it up and sink into death fine no problem many of my
colleagues many doctors would say these are just hallucinations what do you say
about that so people say all these things that I we were finding and the
dying are hallucinations well this is terminal
gee isn’t it what is a hallucination a hallucination is an experience that you
have and nobody else does so they’re many hallucinations so the fact that
they’re hallucinations really is saying nothing but if you look at the data then
people relatives in the same room quite often
no not quite often rarely see the deathbed visitors but they do see them
there are quite good accounts children see them more than adults and
occasionally the hospice nurses see them so on that ground they’re not
hallucinations in those cases so why are you going to say some of hallucinations
and some aren’t it doesn’t make any sense calling them hallucinations mean
that you’re just keen to get rid of the topic now let’s talk about something
interesting but they’re they’re not it doesn’t help
yeah they’re also so-called hellish near-death experiences what do you say
about that so some people report hellish experiences I have a lot of difficulty
with hellish experiences because in the ones that we took from our survey or
from the letters which people wrote there was always a clear explanation of
what a hellish experience was I’ll give you an example this man had a near-death
experience he suddenly realized that he had left his body and was in a hellish
realm and there were loads of devils there and there kept on tricking him and torturing him and he knew he was in a
hellish realm because he could feel the flames of hell burning him now as he got
better because he was in intensive care he realized that hellish experiences
were in fact coming from the heating pad he was
hang on and that led to a misinterpretation of the heat sensory
data and the devil so it’s quite easy to see because he said these were the
nurses that were coming in and giving him injections and doing things like
that so that was his interpretation so this was an illusory experience he was
getting very close to something which is called an intensive care psychosis
because they are paranoid they are where people are doing things which are
horrible to you and so it has a rational explanation that you don’t have to
postulate a hell but the question is is there a hell is there really a hellish
realm of people going to or not it I’ve had no death experience no true death
experience which people have reported that there’s a hell they just don’t do
it near-death experiences in our sample it
was 4% now that may be lower because remember ours was a a letter-writing
survey and are you really going to write into Sundy who’s done a program and I’m
the ease and say I’ll spent my my NDE being punished and pulled by Devils
recursion not so we got probably an under-representation of that but the
ones that we had in our sample I couldn’t convince myself that they were
of the same sort of order as near-death experiences now other people think that
I’m wrong there so you can obviously interpret the data either way so what
have you learned from all this is there a special message for our culture I
think the experience that I have learned about near-death experiences and dying
have a very strong message to our culture I’m absolutely with Dalai Lama
in the first part he says any culture which can’t which sweeps death under the
carpet and can’t acknowledge it is this is a society which is greed
because you’re collecting things and you’re going to have it you can be angry
with people because it means it’s fine to have enemies and they are very
self-centered because they’re going to live on to eternity if you look at our
culture it’s very it’s got strong components of that so I think the way
that we medicalised death sweep it away don’t talk about it is producing a
culture that is exactly one in which we deny our responsibility look every
hundred years we’re all going to be swept away like that but yet we won’t
talk about this earth point one the next point is that we ought to start with
children telling them about what it’s like to die fact we’re all going to die
bring it out into the open and discuss it one of my grandson’s came down and he
found that a dog had got into the garden and bitten the head of two of his
hamsters now he’s confronted by death they’re these things that he loved
dearly have just been destroyed and so it raises questions do they all go to a
guinea pig heaven or are we just all machines what does death means you see
these very fundamental questions you get very early lessons but if you go round a
class of kids and say how many of you have experienced to death many of them
have had grandparents who have died they know about it so it ought to be on the
school curriculum we ought to teach them the death is a normal part of living and
in fact you accept death when you accept birth in fact death birth and dying or
all part of the same continuum and that it’s going to happen to us
and it’s nothing to be afraid of or fearful of what you have to do is like
when you go into an exam you want to be prepared for it well when you go into
the final exam of death want to be prepared for it and then you
can talk about the phenomena which occur and so on but it’s so important that we
stopped this process of sweeping it under the carpet and you know why we
sweep it under the carpet because we don’t die like we used to
if this was a Victorian family I would already have two or three siblings that
had died when young we did no antibiotics looking keeping the place
keen and stopping infections was very poorly done so people died and kids
particularly so death was ever-present so the Victorians were much better
talking about him than we were have you ever seen a horse going along the road
in our culture now what’s it followed by cars at a distance behind it going
slowly no they’ve all got their fingers on the horns come on move on get on
it’s not respected do you stand with your arms crossed and your head barred
when the horse goes by no of course you don’t you’ve got many things which are
much more important than that because you don’t value death simple as that but
it’s very important nothing strange about it we’re all going to do it so we
might learn about it simple doctor Fenwick thank you very much for your time
and your interesting insights and the wisdom from your research thank you very
much well thank you very much for your questions you

100 thoughts on “What really happens when you Die | End-of-life-phenomena • At home with Peter Fenwick

  1. When you die and never come back to life is when you will know the real truth,

  2. June 6, 2019: I live in Dorchester, Massachusetts @ Harbor Point on the Bay. A poorly tended garden of 1,200 sq. with maybe 8 trees Tree's and a hedge-row Gazebo and bench seating. In the spring and summer, doves, pigeons, sparrows nest in the trees. On June 6th, 2019 this large black crow flew right into the ocean of air in that 1,200 sq. to the furthermost southeast corner and in & on the branch where a number of birds nest and the crow nailed the nest and I don't know how many eggs or young hatchling he got but he got something and then the crow turned around and flew out. There was a small nest that fell on the concrete stairs. I sat still and watched what I think was a female bird take a fly-over, a sort of reconnaissance if anything had been in it, whatever no sign of what might have been except some panning in on the nest "I imagined the female remembrance of "bird droppings" on it's last pass over the nest, torn asunder from the tree to find it's rightful place on the concrete step in plain sight of the residents. I am a USAF veteran and I had some tech school training on air to air missile guidance systems. One of the classes focused on the arms packed for a 30%, 60% or 100% kill of assault by air flotillas of the enemy. The rest of the nesting birds in the yards I sensed to be quietly lying low until the female completed the reconnaissance of the birds nest on the ground, an no further sign of the crow. A pigeon with it's feathers in tufts like a American Indian war bonnet about it's neck waddled into sight, maybe it had a scrape with the crow also… later that weekend I learned my 26 year old nephew had passed only the day before. The same afternoon I was sitting in the yard bird watching. Brrrrrrr.

  3. I'd love to share a joint drink some tea and have conversations with this man. Literally just kick up our feet, light a fatty and just talk about anything.

  4. I have to say I am totally Blown Away !! when my father passed away in 1993 March 12th on my brothers birthday, which in itself is strange, because he and my brother always bumped heads throughout my brothers teenage and adult life ,anyway I had spent three days in the hospital with my father that was dying of cancer , and he continuously would pull out the needles in his arm and the catheters and saying he needed to leave , and that was the reason I needed to stay there ! for three days and nights he was talking to people that weren't in the room ? he would turn to me asked me if certain people were alive or dead ? and I said I have no idea pop ? Also he Would mentioned people to me I had no clue who they were ? And that was the 1st day , Then by the 2nd day he would say to me I'm not getting out of this one alive, I was 26 years old at the time and I didn't want to hear that ! it was tough ,and the youngest of the family of 8 Anyway 3rd day they do the exploratory surgery because they didn't know what they were dealing with ? An hour later they said take him home we'll arrange a hospice he has advanced cancer!! And has about three weeks to a month live ! Up to that point no one in my family had ever died and this was the first and I couldn't stop crying and I couldn't breathe when they told me , I called my brother who lived in Wyoming to come home I said its papa . He was here the same day my father didn't last 3 days. That night my mom gathered the family together and said I don't want to see him suffer anymore , because he was suffering ! So say goodbye to him we all stood around him , we all took turns kissing him ,I kissed his feet and said I love you papa , that's when my mom lit a candle that was blessed by our family's church priest, and when she lit it it lit the whole house up so bright and my father did the opposite and slowly dimmed , and my dad's Dog Soda , began howling at the exact moment he died , and from that day forward realized that God is real and began talking and making him a bigger part of my life and he puts a smile on my face everyday he gives me !! god is all things good ..sorry it was a long memory.

  5. The answer of the theme of the whole Bible in a nutshell. Read the scriptures too please?

    WHAT IS GODS KINGDOM THAT IS GOING TO COME AND DELIVER THIS PLANET FROM DESTRUCTION…….

    With the SIN FALL WHERE THE FIRST HUMAN COUPLE sinned. PARADISE EARTH WAS lost to all mankind….. And suffering started

    This world deteriorated to now where we all will die with this planet. If the original designer, architect and constructor do not urgently intervene….. With his loving kindness to deliver us from a dying planet!

    We are now going back to that awesome kind loving KINGDOM. WHO IS THE ONLY WISE WISDOM. …… TO REGAIN PARADISE EARTH WE LOST……. HE SHALL RULE US AS HE DID IN THE 1ST PLACE. TO THE BENEFIT OF ALL COMPLEXED LIFE FORMS AS HE ORIGINALLY PURPOSED…… GEN 1:26-28.

    YOU ARE INVITED TO BE A SUBJECT OF OUR ALL WISE ARCHITECT!

    Our dead loved ones will be resurrected on this earth, to be united with us the living! God never created hellfire neither something that survive after death…. All dead ones sleep. Eccl 9:5:10

    CONTACT YOUR NEAREST JEHOVAH WITNESSES for more info

  6. i saw a man who was in the age of 80's who died and after his death i saw him walking in his apartment young as 18 to 21 yrs old, heading outside around 1am to 2am on 20 Oct 2019. i saw him from his knees down and he had white shoes on and he was a peaceful spirit going out, he was a black man and young. Other elderly people in the neighbourhood who knew him say he was a nice man. I saw him and he was not in the 80's anymore. I am happy i saw him before my time to die because i see proof its just the body dies not the soul, and i saw that the soul is better than the body when i saw him after his death. I am happy i saw him.

  7. i wanna die to see what happens but i don’t bc i have family and a well life, i guess i’ll just have to wait

  8. sometimes in life God make u wait he gives u second chance in life” God knows u goin through so much u tryin give up in life” but GOD givin u hope to stay strong “ like me I could be dead long ago but am still alive even tho am very weak n feels like life is not worthy to me “ God is tryin give me chances in life to know there is more beautiful things in life” if it not yet ur time to go then it not yet ur time”” u can be sooooo sick 🤕 in a bad situation n u can’t help urself n u wanna die but then GOD is holding u strong cuz it not yet ur time to go” we will all die but not everyone knows when thy will DIE!!

  9. From a young age I believed in the afterlife ever since my father told me of his NDE in 1929 when he almost died of pneumonia at age 15.
    He woke up in the hospital viewing his body from the ceiling, saw a person thru the window outside, went to talk to him and the man didnt acknowledge him or see him. Wanted back in his body and instantly he was back.
    My father was an old fashioned down to earth simple man.

  10. Thank you Dr Peter Fenwick, a wonderful interview. Calm , insightful and a genuine take on what actually happens. A pleasure to listen to.

  11. I dreamed I was dancing with my old partner last night, the night before running my first death cafe

  12. He is talking about stuff I teach in deeper mindfulness , see my end of life therapy course. www.deepermindfulness.com

  13. The part where he said that clock stops when people die really sent chills down my spine.
    My grandad die years ago and my dad loved his antique clocks and watches and both his rolex and his grandfather clock stopped at the time (3am) my grandad died which was early hours of the morning of a stroke.

  14. Worm food? What a profound way to look at death. That's why were born and we live our lives? Worm food,? I really doubt it. Life is more spectacular than that. People that say that mostly dont want to be responsible for the things they do in this earth. Dont want to be accountable. I said mostly not all. You can make a significant difference in the lives of others and touch so many souls. What you do on this earth your choices and decisions, count

  15. As i believer i do have a question in regards to those who have claimed to have died, and came back not remembering anything. Is there a limbo? Or do some people cross over without remembering? If anyone can explain why some don't have, or remember an NDE i'd appreciate it.

  16. I have had an NDE. I wasn't ready to go, and I was sent back. When my mom passed, I myself could feel the presence of my father sitting in a chair nearby. She was staring upwards, then she looked over at me and said "I'm ready." Yet she waited until I moved to a chair to rest my eyes. That was when she left.

  17. Just before my dad passed, we were standing outside in hall but could see-through window into his room ( the nurse had a computer going and monitoring him)" and all at once she said how " Can't you see his spirit leaving?" I looked and my family and we did not see anything. I said to my husband " Let us go inside the room as do not know why I cannot see it?" I was thinking " She must be a Psychic or something, as it was an odd thing to say, I thought" He had been intubated when he arrived, and so he could not speak and did not want to live like that, and we did not have a Health Care Proxy signed, so he then wanted to lay on his side. He sort of gesture in a way I could understand. So I had to get the nurse to get help to turn him. They did, and he soon passed.

    When my grandmother passsed a bird came to my moms' feet, and turned its head one way and then the other, and just kept sitting at mom's feet. My mother knew what it meant. ( We never saw that before) My grandmother said a few days before she passed" I saw the cross, and I know my time is now short" Grandmom was a Christian before this, for many years.

    Grandma told many tiems how her grandmother died in her house and she told how she saw " flowers and a little boy named Benjamin and he lives at once time in the village near them, and she said ( My grandmother knew this family and the little boy) how his dad kicked him down the stairs, and he died, and so as she lay dying her grandmother said " Benjamin is coming to get me now" But she only saw lovely things,.

    When my mom passed, I left the hospital after being there all-day (every day for a week) and stopped at a restaurant with a friend and while sitting there, a small bird sat in front of the window and was on the limb and would not leave and just kept staring at me! I KNEW it was mom trying to get me back to the hospital. She passed 11Pm that night,

    My eldest son went to her ( My mother's apartment) after she went to hospital o pick something up, and he came back home and told me " A bird came to the windowsill and sat thee. I think grandma will not come home this time?" he was right, but it took over a week, but he was right about it. He had heard us saying that over the years of how that was said, but he was never the type that would EVER agree with such things. That day He did believe!

  18. Wondering if this would be the same for suicide? The closer I get to mine I can feel everything changing. I have been holding on for over six months since I made my decision and now it has come down to attachments. So many things have slowed down and changed. I have been on an intense spiritual journey.

  19. Children want to talk about death. They know their parents will die. That is the first insight into this. When they start taking the subject up, be honest and open.

  20. I wonder how sudden death victims deal with the giving up of ego? Soldiers for example.

  21. A week before dying from lung cancer my dad became so calm and always smiling. Talking to our long time ago dead dog, his father(my grandfather) and other relatives. I thought these hallucinations were caused by the pain killers, but now i know that was the NDE. Before he dies he started rolling his eyes …(you know, like when you pass away) and i said, No, until you don't say good bye to me i wоnt allow you to go. He looked at me and a tear rolled down his cheek….
    Good bye dad! Love you!

  22. this explains why i always see the brightness of lights weeks before i will hear the news about some relatives or somebody i know had died..

  23. I’ve never heard horns blowing behind a funeral procession. Do they do that where he’s from?! We pull over to the side of the road and wait patiently for a funeral procession to pass.

  24. Nobody knows what will happen to you after death. Did you know what or where you were before this life as a human? No right! You were in the state of being non existent or even if u existed, that part of your consciousness is shut off as soon as you are born as a human! You will go back to that original state again after you die!

  25. I can show that this is bullshit. Just take salvia divinorum or other psychedelic in sufficient dosage and you can have these so called NDEs. I have had them while using salvia divinorum, or even during dreams. It is all an effect of the mind, that it can manifest in different locations. Nothing to do with death specifically, or god, spirit, or other crap. You can induce it, as I have pointed out.

  26. This is New Age propaganda. Becoming part of the universe is from eastern religion and New Age philosophy. This philosophy is in stark contrast to Christianity. In Christianity you get a glorified body. Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life. Beware of New Age doctrin because it is a false religion. Hes acting like he just discovered all of it, but he keeps driving home duality which is central to New Age.

  27. 3 spirits outside my bedroom door last night. Sometimes I might see a single and I chalk it up to my imagination.

  28. And Jesus said for God so Love the world that he gave his only son that who so ever believe in him she'll not parish but have everlasting life.❤

  29. Seeing dead people before dying is comforting, yet I am far from convinced that this is not an hallucination caused by drugs, etc.

  30. Consciousness moves in to another universe Robert lanza theory of biocentrism

  31. I knew 2 people who both had near death experiences and told me similiar stories. Both of these people saw a guy in a top hat just standing silent and looking at them. Bear in mind these 2 people who had this vision didn't know each other and the stories were told at least ten years apart.

  32. You might be a psychiatrist but you are Not God. Neither is anyone else. We all will find out how our brain works when Jesus tells us.🤩❤️🙏

  33. Dr. Raymond Moody has written many books on life after death from his medical researches.

    I completely agree with Mr Fenwick's conclusions which concur with mine (after a NDE of my own).

  34. Excellent information. I completely agree with Peter Fenwick, especially after my own NDE and years of research.

  35. My aunt passed August, I was caring for her. Hours before she passed she was in some kind of psychosis, like she herself left and it was her body reacting.. I already missed her even if she was there breathing. She was calling out to her mom to help her, like she saw her. Lastly, apart of this video he mentions we can have dreams before dying.. I had one weeks after my aunt passing and someone's voice told my not to worry I was leaving at age 31 .. I'm going on 27. Wonder what that is about.

  36. An amazing past life experience: It all began when I
    visited a new restaurant. Lauren waited on me and I was overcome by this
    powerful feeling that I had known her for many years! And then… https://www.amazon.com/dp/1513639218

  37. I hope I have a good hallucination before existance ends and its as if I nevet exisisted. I was brutally tortured in life and look forward to nonexistence. They showed me atheism and no mercy with only hate rape and their huge ego. I would like to die very much someday.

  38. Did he just talk about concepts of the law of attraction??
    Attachment and so on??

    This is also true for LOA. What if LOA is part of the same phenomena??
    I don't know about life after death BUT I experienced LOA several times. So if lia exists than there is a chance for life after death too.

  39. The truth of the matter is this. If you die without having your sin debt wiped clean, you will have chosen to go to hell and the lake of fire forever…..God loves you, that is why he sent his Son, Jesus Christ, to save you from eternal separation from God. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. To enter heaven you must be perfect, so how are you getting in? No one in the entire history of mankind was/is perfect because we are born with a sin nature. The only one that walked the earth who was sinless was Jesus Christ, God manifest in the flesh, he came to die for all your sins on the cross which satisfied Gods demand for justice against sin. God offers anyone eternal life as a free gift by putting your faith in Jesus Christ, believing he died, personally for you, so that you might be reconciled to God, forgiven your sins, justified, eternally secure and adopted into the family of God. The only way to be saved is through Belief in Jesus Christ, that he died, was buried and rose again the third day…you receive his perfect righteousness as a covering to enter heaven, not your own righteousness. Life is short, eternity is forever

  40. Who are you
    Think of me as millennium multiplied by aeons compound by time without end iv been around that long
    I am the most lasting and significant element in existence and I have come to move you on to the next dimension
    I am death

  41. Q? …. Consciousness without a brain ?
    Read this book or watch these links :

    “Soul Survivor … the reincarnation of a WW II pilot”
    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Uk7biSOzr1k

    https://youtu.be/Uk7biSOzr1k

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VYE0WEFz_OA

    James’s parent’s review of book
    https://youtu.be/rNvJW6YJ3V8

  42. I sense a little bit of awkward tension coming from the interviewer…I think he feels, a little bit intimidated by the Neuropsychologist 😉

  43. do you have any studies of sudden storms blowing in at time of death , then passing , followed by sun and rainbow ?

  44. The spirit and the brain are not the same. Terrific interview -I've watched it three times (already) -and shared it. Thank-you -and you wife for your wonderful work Dr.

  45. This is what happens after death? Especially when you die unenlightened? See the video.. don't assume it's spiritual bla, blah…

    https://youtu.be/jZWjbwMvIUY

  46. Finally… an interview with the interviewer staying quiet and letting the interviewee speak.

  47. The Order of the Kingdom.

    (Pmt IV.)

    1. AND another asked him, saying, Master, how wilt thou that we bury our dead? And Jesus answered, Seek ye council of the deacons in this matter, for it concemeth the body only. Verily, I say, unto you there is no death to those who believe in the life to come. Death, as ye deemed it, is the door to life, and the grave is the gate to resurrection, for those who believe and obey. Mourn ye not, nor weep for them that have left you, but rather rejoice for their entrance into life.

    2. As all creatures come forth from the unseen into this world, so they return to the unseen, and so will they come again till they be purified. Let the bodies of them that depart be committed to the elements, and the Father-Mother, who reneweth all things, shall give the angels charge over them, and let the presbyter pray that their bodies may rest in peace, and their souls awake to a joyful resurrection.

    3. There is a resurrection from the body, and there is a resurrection in the body. There is a raising out of the life of the flesh, and there is a falling into the life of the flesh. Let prayer be made For those who are gone before, and For those that are alive, and For those that are yet to come, for all are One family in God. In God they live and move and have their being.

    4. The .body that ye lay in the grave, or that is consumed by fire, is not the body that shall be, but they who come shall receive other bodies, yet their
    own, and as they have sown in one life, so shaUthey reap in another. Blessed are they who have worked righteousness in this life, for they shall receive the crown of life.

  48. Back in my 20's I use to jog 6 miles/day, 4 times a week. The only thing that could stop me on the run was heart attack or gunfire. One day I was finishing mile 2 and I heard in my mind, "xxxx drop your Old Grandma a line, I love you". The xxxx is my name which I won't share. I STOPPED and was frozen. It was the voice of my Grandmother whom had always loved me, but I was never close to due to work and distance. I discontinued my run, went home and wrote Grand-mom a letter. 3 Days later, my Aunt (who Grand-mom lived with) called me and said that I had made G'M' so happy that she was crying. The next day G'M' died. I never forgot this. If any of you are runners, you don't simply STOP full swing. I did, was gripped with emotion, and this happened. I think it was God that stopped me.

  49. In Psalms 146 verse for it says when we die in that very day our thoughts perish. And again and Ecclesiastes it tells us chapter 9 versus 5/6 and 10 that for the living know that they shall die but the dead know not anything, neither have they any more a reward, for the memory of them is forgotten. Also their love, and their hatred, and their Envy, is now perished. Neither have they any more apportion forever and anything that is done under the sun. Verse 10 whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might. For there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave whither thou goest. And the Bible also teaches us that when Christ returns to this Earth at the very end of days he will blow a trumpet and resurrect all that were in Christ, and they will be caught up by angels and be taken to the clouds. And then the Unfaithful people will be raised to face the judgment and II death.

  50. I know that many people claim to have seen the spirits of their loved ones. But the Bible clearly teaches that these are seducing spirits, the Bible also clearly states that we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and Powers. In other words evil spirits. When we're not only given guarding angels to protect us but Satan has his evil angels to lure and deceive us. What a cruel and evil trick it is that he should take the form of our beloved at a time when we are so bowed down with grief.

  51. My grandpa died of old age and knew on the day he would die that it was his time to go. He was having conversations all day long with family members who had passed before him like they were right there in the room. He even said his childhood dog was there.

  52. my friend sow in a dreem that he will die 3 monthes later he had a car accedant and he was the only one who got hurt! he was healthy very healthy cant undrestand the dreem part

  53. We fear death at least sometimes we fear death often in error because death is necessary to go to the next chapter of our existence!thank you all this has been wonderful!

  54. what about universe. what will happen to universe and galaxies? its not all about afterlife and life on this earth. there is a lot of planets in the universe. universe may be expanding or maybe its infinite

  55. Your being deceived by the god of this world. There are two death in the body .
    One is the body corrupted by sins and will die and be buried in the grave.
    The second death is your soul will die and will be in a lake of fire if that soul does not acknowledge JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH for that souls only hope of eternal life.
    If that soul does REPENT in his life time and BELIEVE in JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH and TRUST HIM TO SAVE there soul they will have eternal life with JESUS and never die a spiritual death.
    Any outherway the devil is deceiving you by false experiences n outher ways of saving a soul.
    Reve 20verse 14 n 15 read the bible take God word for it .

  56. Nicholas Coke… born without a brain lived three years had responses to his parents and surroundings.

  57. This life we are living is so small it's just a little part of our life although it seems so big it is not. I have had a death experience & it was peaceful warm & very real much more real than our life here. Our lives here on what we call Earth is nothing more than a waiting room with many things to do to keep us busy while we wait. It truly is just a waiting room this is a fact.

  58. What if you are vaporised by an artillery shell?
    Eloquently put but totally wrong

  59. The man has most definitely kept my attention. He is very brilliant for his age and so far what he says seems to be true from watching a few people die in my lifetime. I am 40 minutes in and the next 19 minutes should be amazing.

  60. Some of what this guy says is fine but he obviously is anti christian. He mentions the "bible belt" several times with a disdainful tone…doesnt he know christianity is the largest religion on earth? Hard to listen to anyone who obviously hates.

  61. He is very good but I do not agree your animals in heaven don’t come to see you our animals also coneccted to our souls of course

  62. I first saw Peter Fenwick mentioned in the documentary 'The day I died', it's good to see that he has continued with his research all these years. Also, the meditation school I found (Drukama Teachings) has helped me a lot to understand the phenomena that can occur beyond the physical body.

  63. I remember my Mother saying to me on my visit to her in a convalescent home 'Look at my parents at the end of my bed and they are calling me'. I did not see any figures at the end of her bed. She passed within two weeks of that experience, peacefully. As Peter Fenwick says 'Birth and Death are part of the process of living, birth is the beginning of the process and death is the final segment of the process and is unavoidable. Very compelling informative one hour viewing. Thanks you

  64. Cancer ended my brother’s life in the physical exactly 3 weeks ago. My mother was laying with him in bed as he transitioned. Although he was extremely weak and had a hard time talking, he asked my mother to sing a nursery rhyme that she hasn’t sang to him since he was a young child. My brother was 50 yrs old when he passed. She sang the song to him and he struggled to sing along. He told her that he had a lot of fun. Our assumption is that he was speaking about his experience here in the physical world. My personal feeling is that his life was flashing before his eyes while he was telling her these things. He also told her that he was feeling dizzy and that it was getting dark. My mother consoled him during the process (he comforted her too 😊) and assured him he would be ok. He told her that he loves her and to let everyone in the family know that he loves us too. He then told her that he sees the light and repeated that a few times then he was gone. As painful as this experience is for myself and my family it’s very comforting to know that he peacefully passed away and was definitely headed in the right direction. I know my brother is with God now. There’s absolutely no doubt in my mind that he’s enjoying his new life in the spirit world. As crazy as it may sound, I can hear him talking to me. I’m certain that these are just not my thoughts or my mind playing tricks on me. The death of my brother is causing the most painful emotion I’ve ever felt in my life but I’m slowly realizing that there’s so much beauty in this pain and for that I am thankful.

  65. This is certainly a discussion that is mind opening on a very important topic for everyone given we will all die. Fenwick is certainly an extremely well-educated man who has written many books about this and related phenomenon and he has been directly involved with health care for perhaps most of his life. I think this topic is at once polarizing -either you believe or you don't – and anywhere in between sounds flimsy. That is probably where most people are with it and many I am sure want to believe as it gives support to our continuing existence. Certainly science has no decisive claim to a final say on life after death – but neither do non-scientists. I admire his brave exploring and taking on this topic in a professional way and admitting some uncertainties exist. I think it has to be at the top of the list for humanity's priorities or it should be. I do counter his passing general remark – and maybe he might too – about nurses knowing more about near death experiences than doctors. He perhaps meant it simply as more reports come from nurses. I have met quite a few nurses worth their salt and very bright and some as sour as old milk and prone to fancy. There's a lot of doctors who are the same way. I think whoever is exposed to the bedside patient has an advantage with logistics but objectivity of thinking is another thing.

  66. Why not ask the millions of people who have died and seen heaven and hell and came back instead of a theologian with good intentions?
    When the spirit is exhaled then you rest and await the judgement. Because God is fair. And it is fair that His creation who have loved Him and believed in Him and kept His commandments inherit the earth after that day.
    God bless. If you humbly seek Him you will find Him. And when you find Him you will see Jesus. He is the only way to the Father. He is the Father manifested to His creation.

  67. i had to near death experiences 1 with bright lights and the other in a tunnel with a ball chasing me??

  68. If there were one God and one heaven the NDEs of people in difference cultures with differing religious views would all be the same. But he is telling us they are different and dependent on those things. Very interesting.

  69. When I hit a taxi and went unconscious I was in a dream. It was peaceful till the paramedic woke me up

  70. The question is moronic ! When will people stop propagating this religiously-fueled and deceitful hogwash that life does not end at death. Life is not infinite…once you are dead,you are dead ! How more obvious can that be ? When you see a deceased love one in repose,you realize that their life is over and they are gone forever ! It is physically impossible to be in two places at once.One can not be deceased and buried,cremated,entombed,etc.,and be magically transported to a paradise in the clouds. No less recognize,greet and interact with pre-deceased loved ones and live eternally in bliss in the clouds.This is the stuff of fairy-tales,wishful thinking and religious nonsense ! All this crap about a near death experience is nothing more than people dreaming or hallucinating while still alive,obviously ! Furthermore,the soul is nothing more than a concept.It is not a real or tangible thing,and is non-existent. Science has already proved that it is physically impossible to have any form of consciousness after death….you are dead !

  71. What Satan and Religion don”t want u s to know : The meaning of Life,
    the reason you were born.   (Gods Plan) God wants to give us eternal life. But what will a life without end be
    like? Does the Bible give us a glimpse of what it will be like
    living forever in the Kingdom of God?
    Numbers 23:19
    God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does
    not change his mind. Has He ever spoken and failed to act? Has He
    ever promised and not carried it through?
    Colossians1:27
    To them Father YHWH chose to make known how great among the Gentiles
    are the riches of the glory of this  mystery,

    2Corinthians 1:22
    placed His seal on us, and put His Spirit in our hearts as a pledge of what is to come.
    This is truly staggering knowledge!
    [ Ephesians 1:5 ] 2 Corinthians 6:18
    And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me,
    says the Lord Almighty.” John1:12
    But to all who did receive Him, He gave them the right to be children of God,
    to those who believe in His name, ( YHWH )
    Carefully read the following verses from your own Bible:
    The Real name of YHWH has been known for thousands of years. It is all
    in the spelling.   To review, God's personal name is YHWH.

    These are the English transliterations of the Hebrew letters

    YHWH's name is His image.
    It presents Him to the world.  Genesis1:26-27.…26-Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, after Our likeness,
    to rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the
    livestock, and over all the earth itself and every creature that
    crawls upon it.” 27-So God created man in His own image; in the image of Father YHWH (God) He created us; male and female. 
     
    John10:34-36  You are YHWH's name. You are created in the image of YHWH.
    This is not chance. This is not a game. This is not something that
    has been thought of recently. It is the oldest of revelations. And the most powerful.
    Jesus answered them, Is it not written in your law, I said, You are gods?
    …An  Astonishing Scripture
    The book of Hebrews reveals God’s awesome purpose with crystal
    clarity. The context begins in chapter 1. Watch the picture of salvation unfold. 2Corinthians 5:5 And
    God has prepared us for this very purpose and has given us the
    Spirit as a pledge of what is to come.
    First, understand that God created angels to be “ministering spirits” to assist the “heirs of salvation”
    Hebrews1:(vs.14).
    This is their role within God’s Plan. Angels
    are not offered membership in the Family of God.
    This is why Satan (as a fallen angel) so hates the idea that puny,
    little, fleshly man can receive what he has never been offered nor
    can achieve. Romans 8:29 Ephesians1:5
    He predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ,
    according to the purpose of his will,( This means you and me,us )
    Hebrews 2:11For both He that sanctifies and they who are sanctified are all of
    one: for which cause He (Jesus) is not ashamed to call them brothers, Matthew12:50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and
    sister and mother.”
    Romans8:19-23
    19- For the anxious longing of the creation waits eagerly for the
    revealing of the sons of God.
    20- For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but
    because of Him who subjected it, in hope
    23 – And not only this, but also we ourselves, having the first fruits
    of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting
    eagerly for our adoption as sons,
    the redemption of our body Galatians 4:6
    And because you are sons,( you and me, us) God has sent the Spirit
    of his Son (Jesus) into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” 

    When Father YHWH (God) says that “all things” will be put under the
    feet of man, that is what He means. The vast universe, with all of
    its quadrillions of stars and one trillion galaxies, will be put
    under the authority of man who have been born into the Family of
    God. In fact, the Moffatt translation renders the Greek word for
    “all things” as “the universe.”
    Ephesians 1:5 YHWH
    (God) decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing
    us to Himself through Jesus Christ. This is what He wanted to do,
    and it gave Him great pleasure. 

    1Corinthians6:3 Do you not know that we are to judge angels? How much
    more, then, matters pertaining to this life! (This means that we are
    Superior over the Angles!)
    1 John 3:1-2 See what kind of
    love the Father has given to us, that we should be called
    children of Father YHWH (God); and so we are. The reason
    why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Beloved,
    we are God's children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared;
    but we know that when He appears (Jesus) we shall be like Him,
    because we shall see Him as He is. 
     
    1 Corinthians 3:16 Do you not know that you are God's temple and
    that God's Spirit dwells in you? 
     
    1Corinthians 12:27 Now you are the body of Christ and
    individually members of it. 1 John 4:13 And God has given us
    his Spirit as proof that we live in Him and He in us.
    Romans8:14 For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. 
     
      Now, please don't misunderstand my intentions! I'm certainly not trying
    to bring falls hope on anyone with these notes … I'm only
    attempting to remind us of the Truth found through His Word: This is
    what He wanted to do in the new world.

  72. My sister passed away August 2019 the pain was unimaginable. I couldnt understand any of it. And questioned everything. I cried so much since August that it was weakened me. I stopped for a period and try not to think and move on. The other day while in my kitchen wiping down the counter I looked at my sister picture and started thinking and cried out then I became angry as to why and feeling lost and lonely she was my bestfriend. All of a sudden I started sneezing uncontrollably I didn't know why…then I stopped crying and I wasn't so sad anymore.
    I finally getting better day by day because my sister told me a few days before she passed "I thank God for you" ..I'll see you in heaven". She was at peace and wanted to die home which she did. She was save. It still hurts but I know she's with the Lord.

  73. Quit listening to people who say other things from what the Bible says Bible says absent from the body is present with the Lord

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